Ah weddings, what’s not to love? A big party where the drinks are flowing and friends, and family get together for a milestone celebration. But wait, there are some things that can ruin the good wedding vibes and cause an eye roll or two from guests. While your wedding is your big day, it's also about welcoming your guests. They're here to celebrate your union, and your job as a host is to make sure they have a good time. You would never consider inviting someone to your home for dinner and having them pay their share, right? Then why would you do this on your wedding day? So how do you make sure your guests are happy? We've come up with 5 things guests hate about weddings to avoid.
1. Cash Bar
One word - dreadful. We're not saying you have to break the bank and have a full open bar all night long, but making your guests pull out their wallets to enjoy a cocktail at your wedding is a big no-no. Be creative with your budget. Instead, you can offer a limited bar with beer and wine or you could opt to offer a signature drink. Or you might have to trim the guest count a bit. After all, if you're not willing or able to foot the bill, you should not be inviting that many guests. Trust us when we tell you that your guests will appreciate this!
2. Long Speeches (and slideshows)
Here are some basic rules: Keep speeches to no more than five. Each speech should last for one to three minutes and please no slideshows! There is a chance your neighbor's new girlfriend does not care to see a 10 minute slideshow of your baby pictures. If you absolutely want to show pictures of the best moments from high school, share them at the rehearsal dinner, to a more intimate party. We suggest you speak with those giving a speech and ask them to keep it short and sweet. Good luck!
3. Waiting, Late Ceremony Start
Just because this is your big day, it doesn't give you carte blanche to be fashionably late. Punctuality still applies. Your guests have made it a point to show up on time, maybe some even came from afar, show them how thankful you are, and get the show started in a timely manner.
4. That gap between ceremony and reception
If we're being honest here, your guests are more than happy to be witnesses to your vows, but they are ready to partayyy! They are thirsty. They are hungry. And they've taken time away from their busy lives to spend the day in celebration with you. Keep your guests in mind when you decide to take pictures right after the ceremony, and keep the session short. Plan on taking some pictures before the ceremony or sneak away during the reception. This will help in keeping the photo session shorter after the ceremony. Have some refreshments on hand or activities for the lull so guests aren't left fending for themselves.
5. Not having a plus one on the invite
We understand, weddings can be expensive, and you may not be able to accommodate all plus ones. In this case, we suggest to take a good look at your guest list and trim it. But singling out the "singles" is not the nicest way to go, especially if you know these folks don't know a lot of the people in the wedding. Every adult should be treated equally and not pointed out because of their romantic love life. We're sure you want all of your guests to feel comfortable and happy!